How to Show Up Even Though Your Fear of Speaking Stops You Leanne Chesser
There’s one thing standing between you and the freedom you crave (besides the fear of speaking).
You need to get more clients.
It’s that simple.
If you don’t make more money, you’re gonna have to do the thing that makes you die a little (or a lot?) inside, wake up in a panic in the middle of the night at the thought of being trapped in a job, and cry (is that really the right word?) in grief sobs on your bathroom floor.
You know what I mean.
You’re gonna have to get a job (or not leave the one you have now).
And that makes you die inside because, for you, it’s about freedom.
You want to make your own rules, do things your way and make a transformational difference helping the clients you’re meant to serve.
You’re fucking terrified (and I’m not using that word to try and sound cool). I mean you’re freaked. the fuck. out. You’re “shaking-knees, silent-voice, pounding-heart, sweaty-body-parts. feeling-like-puking-and-dying” scared when you need to speak . . . or do live stream . . . or share your message at a networking event . . . or, really, put yourself out there in any way that’s uncomfortable to you.
Mostly you’re scared because you secretly believe you’re just not good enough.
You might be thinking:
What if they say no?
What if I mess up?
I don’t have it perfect yet.
What if they judge me? For no makeup or for makeup? Gray hair or dyeing my gray hair? My background? How I say things? My crappy tech? And the list goes on.
What if I’m just a fraud?
And the fear of speaking causes you to hide.
Sometimes that hiding is obvious. Like when you waste time or avoid doing things.
And sometimes, it looks like:
busyness with things that seem useful but just keep you spinning your wheels
overwhelm from all the courses and freebies and podcasts that shout for your attention
not enough time
or not being your real self because you’re afraid that people won’t like you if they know what you’re really like
But the truth is?
That you’re not really putting yourself out there (even though it feels like you’re busy).